The Power of Clarity
⚠️ Have you had weeks where everything goes well and or you get the answers that you were needing? And...Have you stopped to identify what may have been the reasons for everything being well and in flow?⚠️
🧐 Well I did, as I wanted to find the formula that could help me to repeat this empowered state of being…. Today I will share the 3 steps I used at work and in my personal life with success. 🌾
First Understand My Wants 🦋- where I am and how I feel. Many of us tend to be constantly busy, consciously or unconsciously, to avoid confronting ourselves and others to truly understand or test if the current relationship and situation continues to fit our needs and desires. In my case, I let uncomfortable situations prolong unnecessarily, especially when I know in the back of my mind that change is a must. I finally broke ⚡️ my fears and started dating again at the end of the year and soon after things were not going very well. 🙁During this experience, I discovered that feeling the loss of saying goodbye continues to be hard for me. 😳 This has been my roadblock to take quick action and prevent me to focus on what I truly want and energizes me. So I confronted my fears 💪 with the following actions: 1) wrote down what I don’t want and right next to it what would be my ideal situation. This was magical to liberate my thoughts and gain clarity of what I want. ✨✨This is KEY, as we create our reality from our THOUGHTS and FOCUS. ✨✨ Did you know that we would experience the don’t want with the same intensity of a want depending where our focus is most of the day? 2) With this in mind I monitored my thoughts throughout the day and steered them to my WANTS 3) Re-framed my old story of loss by looking at the opportunities in front of me: finding the man that would be on the same page and ready for a loving relationship.
That brings me to the second point, Foster Sincere Open Discussions. 🤝 Communication breaks are common in human relationships and the two common choices are: 1) 🌁 avoid or delay having a discussion, causing me to stay in my head making up stories which most probably don’t reflect the reality, dragging me to a low emotional state and robbing my energy. Or 2) 🌄 Create an environment that fosters an open discussion with the intention to truly understand, express and clarify. All this regardless of the outcome, meaning the relationship may continue, stop or transform. I experienced this and have to share it has been super liberating 🎊 as the guessing and uncertainty stops. My drive to openly understand the other person’s views paid off. We both learned, appreciated the experience, and recognized the opportunity to grow a deeper friendship, as we are not on the same page. 😊
All this brings me to the third step, Draw Conclusions & Decide Next Steps. 🤩 Fostering situations to quickly clarify our WANTS and the other person’s WANTS are the key to accelerate progress on building or not relationships. Many of us shy away from a healthy confrontation, dragging uncomfortable situations and hurting ourselves and others on the way. I have one more time experienced the value of having the courage to hold an open discussion. 💫 Gaining clarity is a definite win… although I find it more exciting to discover who I am becoming as I continue to build my resilience muscle and get closer to finding my true WANT.🎉🎉
🌾 Dare to Leverage the Power of Clarity to manage uncomfortable situations: Understand Your Wants, Foster Sincere Open Discussions and Draw Conclusions & Decide Next Steps. 🌾
Remember that ”Life is Happening For Me Not To Me” 🦋🦋✨✨